We all know when we come across someone who is truly confident. There's something about them. A certain aura that they embody.
I'm not talking about cockiness or someone who pretends to be confident by putting others down, but rather that individual who attracts those around them by earning their respect. They seem to do it with ease, and we can't help but admire them for it.
History has it's share of truly confident people such as Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., Abraham Lincoln, and Bruce Lee. These people, along with many others we may come across today, have certain traits that define their confidence.
This list illustrates those most important traits.
1. Believing in Oneself
A truly confident person will believe in themselves even when no one else does. No amount of negativity or naysayers will stop them from believing in their ability to accomplish what they set out to do.
But keep in mind that they are not unrealistic in their beliefs.
They understand that they have strengths and weaknesses, but in those areas where they are lacking they are willing to reach out for help or put in the necessary work to increase their ability.
2. Speaking With Clarity and Authority
Someone who is truly confident, believes in what they say. As a result they speak with clarity and a sense of authority that doesn't come from aggression, but rather from knowing.
This knowledge is due to experience.
It's due to understanding the ins and outs of a certain topic because they have been around it for so long. As a result, they are able to convince and earn the respect of those listening.
3. Being Okay With Rejection
This is a sign of not only confidence, but strength as well.
It's the ability to feel good about oneself even when the world and the people in it don't seem to accept you. And it's the ability to own up to your mistakes and move on.
4. Not Needing the Approval of Others
Most of us will try our hardest to be liked by those around us. It's a tendency that starts from early childhood, and it can be very hard to overcome as it is a natural human need to feel loved and accepted.
Truly confident people are able to rise above this need.
Rather than work hard to live up to the expectations of others, they work hard to live up to their own expectations. They are not concerned with what others think of them, but rather what they think of themselves.
5. Being Humble, Not Arrogant
Because a person with great confidence does not need the approval of others, they do not find the need to boast about themselves or their accomplishments.
In a world that is full of highly loud and otherwise arrogant people, we are coerced into believing that this is how a truly confident person behaves. However when someone does this, what they are saying is that they need to display their worth to the world in order to receive respect. In other words, they are in need of approval.
That is exactly the opposite of a truly confident person who is humble about their abilities and does not need other's to tell them how valuable they are.
6. Calm in the Face of Danger
Being able to handle their emotions and think clearly in stressful times, shows that a person is able to handle the situation.
This isn't to be confused with a lack of emotions, which is impossible unless the person is dealing with a serious medical conditions. But rather, it's the strength to be one with the emotions and continue on in spite of them.
7. Respecting Themselves and Others
A truly confidence person does not look to impose himself/herself on the boundaries of others. They are merely interested in maintaining their own boundaries.
What this means is that they do not try to force themselves or their ideals on others, but only work to make sure that others do not try to impose themselves on them.
They stand up for themselves. This is the meaning of respecting yourself and respecting others.
8. Willingness to Learn
Truly confident individuals love to learn. They love to expand their knowledge, whether it be from a book, computer, or from someone else.
They also have the ability to admit when they don't know something.
It takes a certain level of courage to tell someone that we do not know something, while at the same time not feeling lesser for it. When presented with a situation such as this, a truly confident person will have no problem admitting that they do not know and will be willing to learn in order to increase their own knowledge.
9. Persistence Through Failure and Adversity
Obstacles in life are a way of becoming better. This is how a confident person will see them.
Instead of arguing or getting mad that something didn't go the way they would like, they continue on. They make sure to dust themselves off and keep pursuing their goals.
10. Celebrating Others When They Achieve
This is a trait that separates the greats from the rest. Not only will a confident person celebrate someone else who isn't in their field, but they will also celebrate those who are.
We all find ourselves in competition with others in various times of our lives, but many of us will not show respect to someone when we are beat.
It is the humble and truly confident that are able to disregard any feelings of jealousy in order to show appreciation for the accomplishments of others.
At the end of the day, a truly confident person will not feel worse about themselves if they see someone else achieve.